What Are The Woman Should Not Do After Marriage?
To keep my husband happy after marriage, I was always told that if you satisfy your husband sexually, he will give you all the pleasures of the world. But actually, the reality of life is much more complicated than this.
I got married at the age of 35, and my husband was 37 years old. Nowadays people focus on building their career first, and the age of marriage keeps getting postponed. Marriage at an early age makes it easier to mix with each other, but in late marriage people become so complex that they are unable to adjust themselves to the new environment.
When I got married, I knew that my husband’s income was low. But at the age of 35, my mother was worried about my marriage, because my father had already passed away. People said, “Get married or else your age will pass,” and friends said, “Keep your husband happy at night, he will work hard and earn more money.” I kept everyone’s words in mind and got married.
After marriage, my husband told me, “Look, my income is low, but we can be happy together. I cannot give you all the resources, but I can definitely give you enough to make our life run smoothly.” But even after 15-20 days of marriage, we did not have a husband-wife relationship. Maybe he was upset that I could not accept him wholeheartedly.
My friends again gave the same advice, “Make him happy at night, he will fulfill your needs.” But when they gave me Rs 20,000 at the end of the month, the money was not enough. When I talked to him about this, he said, “It might be a little difficult, but I am trying for another job.” After 6 months, we had a fight, and I came to my parents’ house, thinking that I will not live with him anymore.
My husband called me many times, but I was adamant. Finally, he asked for a divorce. During our hearing, he told the judge, “My salary is low, which she objects to and I am not able to keep her happy. Every person has the freedom to choose his own happiness.” The judge tried to convince us, but my ego did not listen to anyone, and the divorce happened.
After the divorce, I started working and understood how difficult it is to do a job. Earlier I used to get 50000 sitting at home, now I am getting 15000 and it’s a day’s work. A man works day and night to fulfill the needs of his family, but we women only think about how to get our work done.
Today my husband’s salary has become 76000 rupees. I realized my mistake that I weighed the relationship on the basis of money, but this was not right. If I had understood with love, our life would have been good too.
Nowadays girls want to know how much a boy is earning before marriage, but in reality, before marrying someone, it is important to know his character. Mutual consent, understanding and trust are very important to make a bond like marriage work. I understood this when I lost my relationship. It is better to be happy with a low-income person than to listen to a few words from a rich person.
